Teach my cat to sleep in his bed


If you accustom your cat from the first day to sleep with you, he will adopt your habits but you will not be able to change his mind.

There are many people who have in their family a cat or several cats that keep them company every day. Cats are docile animals that transmit a lot of love and that if you respect them you will earn their trust and unconditional love for the rest of their days. A person who likes to share his life with cats is likely to also think of sleeping with them in bed.

Cats should not get used to sleeping in your bed, they will do it themselves. Cats like to be next to people with whom they feel a special bond, because they are part of their family, they are their pack. So, if you sleep in your bed and they have access to it while you sleep, you must be sure that your cats will sleep with you by your side. Both in winter under your blankets and in summer at your feet.

But, once your cat wants to sleep with you, is it really good to sleep with you in your bed or should you look for other alternatives for your health? Personally, I've slept all my life with cats and I'm in great health. But you have to keep some things in mind to make it right.

Is it safe to sleep with your cat?

TO All the people who love their cats like to share their bed with their feline companion. People who don't love cats enough resist this idea and only look for arguments to avoid it. But the reality is that nothing happens if you want to share your bed with your cat, as long as it is a healthy cat, be vaccinated and there is no possibility of transmitting zoonotic diseases - diseases that are transmitted from animals to humans-.

Many cats are active at night because they sleep during the day so it could overwhelm you a little if your cat demands your attention while you try to sleep. But the reality is that cats get used to human habits quickly and even if they rest during the day, if they see you sleeping at night they will also sleep or not bother you to play unless they want you to meet some basic needs or something happens to them and require your attention.

Ideally, before going to bed you establish routines so they know when it's time to go to sleep at night. For example, you can play a little with your cats and feed them something they like. So after playing and eating, you will probably prefer to sleep too.

Who are the people who should not sleep with cats?

People who are allergic to cats or have asthma should keep the cats out of the room because if the little cat sleeps next to it, the problem could be significantly worsened. But if you are a person who is in good health, there's no reason not to sleep with your cat if you really want do what.

Your cat will look for your company and one way to strengthen your bond is sleeping together. Your cat likes to enjoy your presence and that will help establish an unbreakable trust base. Of course, if your cat decides to sleep with you it is because he loves you, respects you and shows his gratitude to you for your care and for the love you give him every day.

On the other hand, babies and children should also not have cats in their bedroom, especially children less than five years old. Young children move a lot while they sleep and if they hit the cat unintentionally, we don't know what the cat's reaction would be to startle in the middle of sleep. Of course, you should never leave a cat near a sleeping baby because there may be a risk of suffocation. On the other hand, if your children are older - after 8 years or so - and both your children and the cat want to sleep together, there is no problem for it.

If you decide at the beginning, then don't change your mind

It is unfair that you decide that your cat sleeps with you in bed and that when he has become accustomed to do it and you, suddenly you prefer to change your mind and that he no longer sleeps in your bed anymore. It's not fair to your feline friend, so the fair thing is that you think well if you want me to sleep with you or not from the beginning.

When your cat is sleeping with you in your bedroom you should keep something in mind, and that is you must sleep with the door open so that your cat can go freely at night when he needs it to his sand tray and to be able to drink water and eat When you need to do it.

If both you and your cat are healthy there is no problem that you share a bed, in addition, a cat is a small animal and if you get used to sleeping on your feet it will not bother you, on many occasions you will not even realize that he is sleeping with you or if you are going to eat and then come back again. Cats are stealthy animals and if you are sleeping He will respect your territory to do it just as he expects you to respect his territory for rest.

If your cat wakes you up in the middle of the night it will always be for you to meet some of his needs, if he does it will not be for fun, but because really need you to pay attention. If your little cat does not know how to sleep without bothering you or puts it on your neck, or in some area of ​​the bed, do not jerk him away, he does not know that he is bothering you, he just wants to curl up next to you because he loves you. If it bothers you, say in a soft voice that this is not your place and that you prefer to sleep somewhere else, then put it with love in the area of ​​the bed where you decide that it is a good place to sleep next to you and not bother you . After some repetitions you will understand.

Why doesn't my cat want to sleep in her bed?

The cats are independent animals They spend about fifteen hours a day sleeping, so it is not strange that they change places to rest and explore new surfaces where they can sleep comfortably.

However, many cat owners would prefer that they sleep in the beds they have purchased for them, mainly to prevent them from napping on furniture, tables and human beds.

In principle, you should understand that if your cat does not want to sleep in his own bed this does not mean that he does not like it, but that in his opinion other surfaces offer what the felines most seek when they choose a space to rest: warmth, comfort and safety.

That's why some cats choose their sleeping place on furniture or tables, or even on your bed. In the first two cases, the decision is usually related to the comfort provided by these spaces and even to the height they provide, as cats they feel safer when they sleep in high places that protect them from "predators."

If you want to sleep in your bed, this answers deeper reasons:

  • The cat feels safe with you, so he seeks your protection at bedtime.
  • He considers you part of his pack, so sleeping close to you is normal, since this is how the pussies rest.
  • Prefer the height of your bed, because it gives superiority against possible threats.
  • Find your body heat, as the temperature of your body drops while you sleep.
  • It misses you, especially if you spend a lot of time away from home, so take advantage of the night hours to be near you.

Despite these reasons, many cat owners prefer that their furry does not sleep on the cushions of the room and much less with them, either because it causes allergy, because their partner does not like it, for hygiene reasons or simply because The cat is so active at night that it does not let them sleep.

Choose a suitable bed

The first step for your cat to want to sleep in his bed is to choose a suitable one for him. From the moment you know you will have the cat at home, you need to select a space to place your bed and you get one, either buying one or conditioning a box or basket to act as a cat bed.

Whether you buy or prepare one, you should consider some factors:

  • The size: cats need space for turn around and stretch, so you should consider a sufficient size so that your cat can do this, but without the bed becoming too large, it will not like it either. The idea is that you can stretch but at the same time feel protected in her.
  • Hygiene: get a bed that is easy to wash, in order to eliminate odors, hairs and bacteria that could cause infections.
  • The material: Some beds are made of wool and others are filled with foam, but the truth is that there are many models and materials. You must choose one that is comfortable for your cat considering the place where the bed will be (to know if it should be warmer or cooler) and the weather, because there are even thermal cushions to protect it in times of cold.
  • The shape: you'll find open beds, high beds, cushions and small caves, so you must observe the tastes and habits of your cat to choose the right one. If you prefer to sleep stretched, a spacious bed will be ideal, if, on the contrary, you like to dominate the space, a high or even bed or cushion placed on a shelf is what you are looking for, if you prefer to hide to sleep, then you must buy a soft cave

The most important thing is that you understand that your cat should feel comfortable and safe when using your bed. However, if after choosing the ideal bed you do not get to use it, follow these tips to achieve it.

Tips for your cat to sleep in his bed

If you have decided that the cat should sleep in his bed, training for this should start from the moment the cat arrives at home. However, if you already have an adult feline and now you want him to learn how to use his bed, with patience This will also be possible, so don't worry.

  • Place your bed in a fixed place from the house, preferably in a corner where the cat is used to sleeping. If your animal prefers it that way and the weather allows it, look for a warm place.
  • If he likes it sleep on high, acquire a bed with support or place yours on a shelf or chair. Make sure you have the right support to avoid accidents.
  • In the hours of the day that the cat passes awake, take advantage to play with him and tire him, so that he feels exhausted during the night. At no time do you wake him up from his daytime naps.
  • If what you want is not to get on your bed, keep the door of the room closed at night, regardless of the meowing of the animal to open. If you insist and you are not going to sleep, place it on your bed and caress it. Repeat this for several days in a row.
  • To make you feel more comfortable, you can leave in your bed a garment that smells like you, in this way the feline will feel safe.
  • Let candies as a positive reinforcement in your bed to relate being in it with the prizes.
  • When you notice that it enters itself in bed, caress him and praise his behavior So you understand that being there is good.
  • Avoid giving too much food before going to sleepWell, this will only make him hyperactive. A light dinner and a small game session is the best for a peaceful dream.
  • Both to avoid getting on your bed or other spaces where you do not want to sleep, try generate some unpleasant sound when you climb those places, either with a rattle or some coins. This will make you relate the place to that sound. Avoid realizing that it is you who produces the annoying noise, because then it will not work.
  • Never abuse it or use violence to try to educate it.

With patience and love You will see how these tips will make your cat sleep in his bed after repeating them for several days. Of course, you must be firm and not weaken in your attempts, because a moment of weakness will only confuse you.

Always remember that a healthy cat, with all his vaccinations and his veterinary check up to date, will not transmit any disease even if he sleeps with you.

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19 comments, leave yours

Hello, I just had a night with my kitten and I went to sleep in the living room because I do not want him to sleep in my room, what I am afraid is that to express his discomfort he urinates on the carpet? What should I do?

Hi Alejandra.
I recommend that you leave a hygienic tray, as far as possible from your bed. Thus, it will not urinate on carpets or furniture 🙂.

hello my kitty is six months old and until today I made her bed to make him independent as I do to use her bed?

Hello!! Thanks for the advice, I have a 21-year-old kitten who has her little bed outside the house with her little bed and she loved it, for a while she doesn't want to be there and no matter how much I put it she doesn't want to, I already washed her house , your little bed and even with this, you don't want, will it be the age? Who already has ideas of old lady? Regards!!

Hello Rocio.
Geez, 21 years already ... 🙂
Yes, at that age you probably don't like being there.
Greetings, and continue to spoil her.

Hi good day,
My cat is 7 months old but I don't want her to sleep in my bed anymore, but my soul leaves me to leave her out because she cries a lot I don't know what to do.

Hello Gabriela.
The best way to teach her not to sleep in your bed is to lower her every time she climbs, and keep the door closed to prevent her from entering when you're not.
You have to have a lot of patience, but eventually you will learn it 😉.
Much encouragement.

Hi. I'm in trouble, five days ago I sleep poorly .. My kitten is almost four months old, I adopted her a month and a half ago, until recently she was an idyll, the ideal pet, affectionate but with some autonomy (she went to her pebbles alone the first day, he sometimes played with me but he also liked to play alone, slept alone in the living room and did not listen to it all night) when I adopted her I do not work and we had our schedules, we said goodbye before sleeping and in the morning we We greeted, everything was perfect !! From now on I clarify that I would not let him get on the bed even during the day, if he went up he would lower it, and in case he had always closed the door of the room. Then we went ten days to the mountains, from now I clarify that I took all his things to have the smell of his usual objects and the trip did not seem to stress it ... the cabin was a studio apartment so there was no door to separate us, the first Two nights I tried to make her sleep in her bed and there was no case, my husband unfortunately insisted that because it was a vacation I let her sleep with us ... However, when I returned, I left her again in the living room and did not complain at all, we slept igaul that before without problems, after three days I started working although not full time and she seemed to be not affected by the change. But on the third night he began to meow early and then stronger and more and more times, now he meats at any time of the night and stands guard at the door of the room, if we get up to go to the bathroom jump on the bed! It does not let us sleep ... I ignored it in the first few days so as not to give it space to generate bad habits, but the truth is that it is very insistent. My veterinarian told me that it could be an early zeal and made me worry a lot, but I already realized that what he wants is to sleep with me (whether or not my husband doesn't care). She has half an obsession with me, she wants me to be on her all the time, cats are supposed to be independent but she is not interested in food even if it is not accompanied! Please help

Hello Mariela.
From what you tell, it seems that your cat is jealous. The desperate meow and at night, cats do it to try to call a cat. But also, the fact that he has become more affectionate and dependent is proof that he has reached sexual maturity.
To solve the problem, my advice is to take her to castrate. Thus the meowing will cease, and it will become much quieter.

Hi Monica, thank you very much for your response. I called his go and he asked me the same thing, although I have my doubts, since he should not have more than two kilos, I also tell you that I am from Argentina, from Buenos Aires, and these days there were a few days of cool weather that are not regulars in February over here, at night I felt her ears and cold legs so maybe she looks for heat ... anyway I don't discard your suggestion, today I'm going to take her to check. Hug!

Hello my cat is pregnant and I bought her a bed so she has her babies but she doesn't like the bed

Hi Crystal.
It usually happens 🙂. The mother cat will look for the best place to have her little ones, and it is often not exactly the place we have chosen for her to stop. Leave it close. Surely the kittens will end up using it.

Hello, today I adopted a cat of 5 months, the problem is that he does not want to sleep in his bed, he wants to be on top of mine at all costs. And I can't leave her out of the room because she gets scared of dogs (they don't do anything, I've had cats before and they get along) I don't know what to do

Hello John.
Congratulations on the new family member.
The first thing to do is for the cat to lose her fear of dogs, and for that it is important that they spend a lot of time together with you present, since it is with you that she feels safe.
To do this, play with them and give them treats from time to time so that everyone gets used to the presence of others.
Little by little you will see that the cat is calming down.
You can buy Feliway, which is a product that helps cats overcome stress.

If you don't want him to sleep in your bed, you can buy a folding cat park and put his bed there.

Hello! I adopted a kitten of 1 month and a half and the first night I let her sleep with me because she felt scared in her new home, now I can't get her out of bed! Sometimes he urinates on the pillow, I don't know what to do

Hi Agostina.
I recommend having it in a room with your bedroom door closed at night. In this room you should put a hygienic tray with sand so you can make your needs there.

You need to spend time with her in her new room. Play, pamper yourself, etc. In this way, you will soon get used to being in it.

Good morning thanks for the article. I have a cat of almost 5 months. I get used to the first days of sleeping in my bed but for an allergy issue I have to take it out and I can't get him to sleep in his bed. My question is whether once I get used to sleep with the door of the room closed and in my own bed I can go back to sleep with the door open and your bed inside my room. Will you continue to get on the bed or have you got used to yours?
Thanks and regards

Hello Gabriela.
Well, it will depend on the cat herself 🙂. In principle, I would tell you that once you get used to sleeping in your bed, you will already sleep in it even if you go to sleep in your room, but this cannot be known until it is tried.

Hello! I have a kitten of almost 3 months, only a week ago that she is at home, and, although during the day (I work full time, and she sleeps and plays alone, she does not tear apart) nor does she approach my room, at night she sleeps with me inside the bed, I lowered it and closed the door, but not much time because I ended up feeling sorry for the meows. Obviously he doesn't like his bed, he uses it to play for a while and nothing else. I want to get her used to a new one but I don't want her to suffer or generate any rejection towards me for not allowing her to sleep with me.
Thank you!

Where should a kitten sleep?

To know what is the ideal place for your kitten to sleep, it is necessary to understand their sleeping habits. A kitten tends to sleep up to 20 hours a day in its first months of life and when it reaches adulthood, it will sleep between 12 and 16 hours. So it is common to change places between naps
and nap.

It is common for a kitten to seek sleep with you, especially during its first year. In general it happens for these reasons: it may be that you simply feel safe next to you and that is why you are looking for your sleep protection. He can also consider you part of his pack or just look for your body heat.

Cats will instinctively look for high places to rest protected from their predators, so your bed may seem like an ideal place to sleep. If you have no problem sleeping with your little one, you can let him do it.

If you think that your kitty's nocturnal activity can alter your hours of rest, you can choose to teach him to sleep in his own bed.

How to teach a kitten to sleep in his bed

Kittens are beings with very marked personalities. That is why they will look hard to find the right place to sleep. If you want him to sleep in his own bed, you should consider comfort over other aspects. Look at these characteristics when purchasing a bed for your kitten:

• Look at its size. Your hairy must fit curled up and also with the entire body extended.

• Look for soft and pleasant textures for your pampered. The texture of the elastic, the vegetable fibers, the rubber, or the artificial leather may not be pleasant to your cat.

• Get an easy to clean bed. Cats are very clean animals, so a bed full of hair, or that generates bad odors, can be unpleasant and avoid using it.

• Depending on the tastes of your kitten, you can opt for beds that can be placed in high places.

Once you have found the ideal bed, you need to follow these recommendations for the baby kitten to learn to sleep in the assigned place:

• It is essential that you show your bed from a puppy. It will be difficult for an adult to learn to sleep in a place he is not used to.

• Leave the bed in a fixed place. Find a place where the kitten feels calm and comfortable. Elevated and acidic sites work perfectly.

• When using your bed, reward him with a pet treat, some petting and pampering.

Give your kitty all the comforts so that he feels comfortable with his resting place. Remember that cats from small usually have their well-defined tastes and that is why you need to be attentive to their reactions at bedtime.

Look at every detail so that living with your little furry is harmonious. Take care of your well-being with the right amount of rest and physical activity so that you always stay healthy and playful.

Why don't cats sleep in bed?

Cats are animals that sleep about 15 hours a day, so changing the place to sleep is normal. If you've ever been sick and had to spend many hours or even days in bed, it sure looked like a stone and your whole body ached.

Would you have changed places if you could have found one as comfortable as the bed? Surely yes! Well, something similar happens with cats. Although they are not sick, sleeping is an important part of their life and spending it in the same place is always heavy, boring and even annoying.

Sometimes you may not like your bed, but not sleeping in it does not mean that much less. Cats are looking for a space that offers them warmth, comfort and safety. The sites that offer this are especially high, since by their feline instinct they feel safe from predators.

If what the cat looks for is to sleep on your mattress, it can be for several reasons:

  • Feel safe and seek your protection
  • He sees you as part of his pack, so sleeping near you is normal for him
  • Prefer a high place, like your bed
  • Search your temporary heat
  • I miss you. This will happen especially if you spend a lot of time away from home

If it doesn't bother you that your cat sleeps with you, go ahead, but if you prefer that at least at night he goes to his resting place, follow the advice we give you below.

More tips

If just choosing a good bed does not work, follow these tips:

  • Put the bed in a fixed place
  • If you like heights, take one with support or that you can climb somewhere
  • Tire it during the day while you are awake so that when bedtime comes you will go to your bed and not move
  • Close the door of your room at night
  • Leave a garment with your smell on your bed
  • Leave treats in your bed, so you will relate sleeping in your bed with something positive
  • Praise him when he goes alone to his bed

If you do all this, quiet, with a little patience and perseverance you can get your cat to sleep in the place you choose for him.